Zain Qureshi: yep, one of the best learnt things is how to vent resultant anger on others..on which note, passive aggression helps make your day tolerable=)
Maham (me): hmmm..passive aggression deviates a person from venting the anger out on others..it leads to masochism in most cases, with the exception of a case where the passive aggressive keeps building it up inside n waits for the right time to take it out on the right target.
And i personally wouldn't recommend this exception to anyone or to myself. I believe it's best to strike when the iron is hot but to strike the right way..else the sufferer again is oneself.
Iem Ron: Anger is often a sign of fear and its effect is usually evil. if u dont manage it in a reasonable, fair and effective manner it will ruin ur relationships and promote violence, bullying and conflict.
Maham (me): True, Iem..this is why i said "though for the right reason n in the right manner at the right target". =)
Because anger is a natural emotion, but it has to be vented out the right way which is constructive to oneself and others involved.
Many a time, I have victimized myself with masochism, both in the distant and the recent pasts. I belong to a family unit, where anger exists as a problem, though this is my personal observation and those family members might not agree on this. But I, as an individual, have suffered directly and indirectly because of my learned behavior and maybe the genetic transference too.
I would consider myself wrong for feeling the anger, and for being unable to let it out in a way that could help me get rid of those feelings. I diverted to useless mechanisms to feel better, in fact self-destructive patterns as well. But this kind of behavior hardly ever helps, and instead only aggravates the anger-related issues.
